In a strongly-worded message that has sparked heated debate online, Digital content creator and graphics designer, Chiamaka Muoka, called out married women who allegedly join widow associations while their husbands are still alive.
Her post, titled “Some Married Women Are Widows, While Living with Their Husbands,” delved into what she termed a “shocking betrayal.”
Muoka began by expressing her disbelief at the phenomenon: “It’s a very bad attitude. How can you join a widow club when your husband is still alive? Even if the man is not providing, is that enough reason for you to join a widow club? You are intentionally praying for his death—what is wrong with you all?”
She referenced reports of widows receiving significant financial benefits and accused some women of greed-driven motives:
“I heard about a club for widows that gives widows 3 million naira. Do you believe that a lot of married women living with their husbands joined the club? When a woman who is fully married and still living with her husband joins such a club, what are her motives? Your answer is as good as mine. Oh yes, the next thing is to kill the man and enjoy widow benefits. Una weldon oooo.”
Muoka criticized society’s lack of attention to men’s struggles, suggesting that such practices might not surface if men’s grievances were taken seriously: “If only society will listen to the complaints of the men, more hidden things will be exposed. What is 3 million naira compared to someone’s life? Some questions you should ask yourself: Do you think it’s easy to mourn someone? If they give you the money as you wanted during the funeral, how sure are you that you will survive the mourning period before you can use the money?”
In her impassioned critique, she rebuked the notion of married women participating in widow associations, saying: “A woman living with a man is in a widow club—please, doing what exactly? What are you discussing there? If widows will come out and show you what they go through each day, you will carry yourself commot for that nonsense club or group.”
Muoka attributed the behaviour to greed and discontentment, urging men to be discerning in choosing their wives: “Na so una go kill una husband because of greed. Money that you can make if you hustle harder. I don’t blame you people; I blame men because sometimes they reject the good girls and follow una wey no dey contented. Men, be selective while looking for a wife. No be only woman dey select man—select woman make you no go carry daughter of Jezebel as a wife. Because it’s only daughters of Jezebel that will have the mind to join a widow group while her husband is still alive.”
Muoka concluded with a fiery admonition: “Men, try to dey check your wives’ doings sometimes, bikonu. Okwa maka onwu Ike. Tueeeh! Abeg, go to church and repent, because you need it.”
The post has ignited a firestorm on social media, with many debating the implications of such accusations and the deeper societal issues they might reflect.
